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Introducing John Valters Paintner!

I’m a Yankee-Doodle Catholic

John Valters PaintnerGreetings to The Abbey of the Arts community! My name is John Valters Paintner. I am blessed to be married to your online Abbess, Christine. And I am honored to be joining her in a more direct manner as your online Prior. I just returned from two weeks in Vienna, Austria where I assisted my wife and Kayce Hughett in leading a retreat. But before I begin more work with the Abbey, I’d like to take this opportunity to tell you all a little about myself, my background and my inspirations.

I was born on the feast day of John the Baptist to John and Helen Paintner. I was baptized Roman Catholic shortly later on the Fourth of July. I am the oldest male child, with two loving older sisters. The family joke is that I did not learn to speak until I entered Kindergarten, as up until then they always spoke for me. My first complete sentence was, “Yeah, what they said.”

My mother spent much of her childhood in a Benedictine boarding school. She wanted to go there because she had been interested in becoming a nun from a young age. Because of the massive changes happening in the Church at the time of the Second Vatican Council, my mother was allowed to take temporary vows. For a variety of reasons, she decided to leave the order and start a family. I think a part of her never left “the Big House,” as her young siblings would call the convent.

A short time later, she met my father at the church in which Christine and I would marry. (Our reception was in the very hall where my parents first met.) My father had been a member of the Knights of Columbus for a short while, but left it to join the 3rd Order of Franciscans with my mother.

Not only did I grow up half a block down from our parish church, but I attended the parochial school from Kindergarten until the 8th Grade. I was an altar-boy and would often serve at the Sunday morning mass where my mother was the cantor and my father was a regular Eucharistic minister. I often felt a bit sad for my sisters were born just a little too early to be allowed to be acolytes. Even back then it didn’t seem right that they were “stuck” in the pew while the rest of the family had more active roles in the liturgy.

I attended an all-boys Catholic high school in the area and became very active in the parish youth ministry program. A significant moment in my spiritual development came on a pilgrimage to Poland for the World Youth Day. My main motivation for attending the trip was a chance to go to Europe with my friends and much of the trip was a blur of activity. But I remember clearly the concluding Mass when Pope John Paul II challenged all the youth present to not to be afraid to be holy. I returned from the pilgrimage fired up and ready to be holy. I just didn’t quit know how to do that yet. The quest to learn what it means to be holy led me to an interfaith Bible sharing group and eventually the Newman Center, where Christine and I met 21 years ago. I’m still discovering what being holy is all about, but the blessings of the journey continue to multiply.

When I began college I really didn’t know what career I wanted to pursue. I eventually found myself called into teaching. I earned a BA in multiple-subject education and a post-graduate teaching certificate. But after student-teaching, I knew that spending all day in a room with small children was not for me. I tried the business world, but that was even less my calling. I was fortunate to be asked to serve as the youth minister at a Catholic parish in a small California town. When Christine was accepted into the doctoral program at the GTU in Berkeley, we moved to the Bay Area. I took a position at another Catholic parish as a pastoral associate. When we left pricey San Francisco for more affordable Berkeley, I went back to the classroom teaching religion at a Catholic high school in Oakland. I was able to finish my Masters in Theological Studies part-time while Christine completed her doctorate.

During a family reunion in the Pacific Northwest, Christine and I found ourselves called to Seattle. Providence was in our favor. I obtained a teaching position at a Catholic high school and we moved into a cozy condominium in a great Seattle neighborhood. The real blessing of the job was the course I taught: Old Testament. In order to be a better teacher, I delved and studied the Hebrew Scriptures. Despite all the ups and downs of teaching at an all-boys Catholic high school, that course kept me coming back year after year. When the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops decided to standardize the religion departments in all the Catholic high schools in the country, they opted for a curriculum they referred to as “All Jesus, All the Time.” I disagreed with this program on educational and theological terms, but did not even have a say in choosing course books . . . I knew it was time for a change.

The change came in the form of Christine’s Austrian passport. We sold our home and most of our belongings and we headed east for a grand adventure. While it may seem that we’ve backtracked a bit to Ireland, we are moving forward in life and in ministry as I join the Abbey of the Arts.

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29 Responses

  1. I’ve always wondered who John was and what his calling was that allowed you both to pick up and leave the country. Thank you for the info. Blessings on your new venture together.

  2. So fun to welcome you to the “conversation” John and to send you my own ongoing sense of appreciation for what you add to Christine’s gifts and ways of bringing beauty to the world.
    I’ve met you only briefly in WA, (but as I recall, dear Petunia was rather more celebrated at that meeting!) and I too would have LOVED to spend time with you and Christine “across the pond”, but, alas, it was not possible this time.
    Blessings on the unfolding of your more visible participation and thank you for sharing your story with us :)

    Rachelle

  3. Namaste John, and welcome to the forefront with Christine. I am new to the monkhood, but know that I have been living it for some time. I am in awe of its power to reach out and inspire via technology, but then, it is as it will be, and I don’t question the Spirit. Wishing you both, and all fellow pilgrims a blessed day.

  4. Thanks for sharing yourself with us, John! After being behind-the-scenes at the Abbey, it must feel a bit intimidating to now be in front of the camera. Welcome to the cyber-community that Christine has birthed and nourished. I look forward to your contributions.

  5. Nice to hear your story. I often say . . . I like to know how others do it. My life has been such a wobblology – going one way and then another, but always searching. I love the call to be HOLY. Following that seems a good plan. Many Blessings, Nancy

  6. John –

    So nice to meet you in this virtual way – I must admit that I have wondered: what kind of husband does Christine have that he is willing to sell most everything and move to Europe?! So lovely to hear some of your story – look forward to hearing more…

  7. Welcome John! How wonderful to be within an Abbey with such a beautiful wholeness of the Masculine and Feminine. This feels like the edge of evolution! Just wonderful!!!

  8. Lovely to meet you, John. Looking forward to your more active presence in the work of the Abbey. I appreciate your sharing a bit of your story with us. Of course, we all love Christine, and now we also embrace you.
    Many Blessings on the Path,
    Marjorie

  9. Very glad to meet you John and to hear some of your story. I look forward to getting to know you better as you take on your new role at the Abbey. Blessings Cheryl