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Give Me a Word: Third annual Abbey giveaway

Two years ago I began what has now become an annual tradition at Abbey of the Arts during this time of new year reflection.  I offer the same invitation this year, again with some prizes to give away on January 6th, and this time with a free gift for everyone who participates.

*Everyone* who shares their word for the year and a brief description in the comments below also gets a *free guided meditation recording* from the Abbey with an *Embodied Examen Prayer for the New Year.*  It is a great way to reflect on the past year and tend your dreams for the next.  To claim your free gift, read through the instructions below and when your word for 2012 emerges, share it in the comments (scroll to the bottom of the page) and then email Eveline, the fabulous Abbey admin at admin@abbeyofthearts.com and request the link.

Then share this invitation with others!  Help spread the love and opportunity for reflection!

Read on for more inspiration:

In ancient times, wise men and women fled out into the desert to find a place where they could be fully present to God and to their own inner struggles at work within them. The desert became a place to enter into the refiner’s fire and be stripped down to one’s holy essence. The desert was a threshold place where you emerged different than when you entered.

Many people followed these ammas and abbas, seeking their wisdom and guidance for a meaningful life. One tradition was to ask for a word –  this word or phrase would be something on which to ponder for many days, weeks, months, sometimes a whole lifetime. This practice is connected to lectio divina, where we approach the sacred texts with the same request – “give me a word” we ask – something to nourish me, challenge me, a word I can wrestle with and grow into.

Last year my word was sanctuary. Sanctuary has multiple meanings: the sanctuary in a church is the place where the holy of holies dwells, but we also create sanctuaries for animals needing protection or for persons fleeing persecution. The layers to this word shimmered throughout my year, but especially the sense of finding sanctuary within my own heart, to feel at home in the world.  This was the grace of this past year, its fierce lesson for me.  This year my word is *savor* (click the link if you want to read more about its meaning for me).  It came to me in a moment of silent prayer as I reflected on the call I am feeling these days to deeply savor each moment of my life, to immerse myself even more in the present moment.  I am eager to discover what the word holds for me this coming year.

If you want help in letting a word choose you, scroll down for several suggestions.

  • What is your word for the year ahead? A word which contains within it a seed of invitation to cross a new threshold?
  • What word, phrase, or image is shimmering before you right now inviting you to dwell with it until it ripens fully inside of you?

Share your word in the comments below before Friday, January 6th

Leave your word for the year ahead in the comments below plus a couple of sentences describing your choice.

Letting a Word Choose You

For some of you the word may have come right away, but for some you may desire a word to ripen within your soul these coming weeks and months, but one doesn’t seem to be coming. So here are some suggestions for allowing a word to choose you:

  • Release your thinking mind in this process, this isn’t about figuring out just the right word to improve yourself this coming year. The word comes as gift, often your sense of it being “right” is more intuitive, a more embodied sense of yes. The word (or phrase) is one that will work in you (rather than you working on it). Remember that a word that creates a sense of inner resistance is as important to pay attention to as one that has a great deal of resonance.
  • Lectio divina is one of the primary practices we have in Christian monastic tradition for listening for a word or phrase that shimmers or calls to our hearts. Lectio is traditionally applied to scripture, but can also be engaged to pray with life experience. Allow some time for prayer and in your imagination review this last year, honoring it as a sacred text. As you walk through your experiences notice which ones stand out, call to you for more attention, or shimmer forth. There may be more than one, but for this time of prayer select one of them (and you can return to others in future times of prayer). Enter into it with all of your senses. Remember it in all of its detail. Experience it from this place you are in now. Notice if there is a word or phrase which rises up. Then allow that word to unfold in your imagination and welcome in images, feelings, and memories which stir in you. After a time of making space for these, begin to ask what is the invitation or call rising up from these noticings? Where is God calling you to a new awareness or action in your life? Close with some time of silence.
  • Approach a soul friend, a spiritual director, or a wise elder for your word, as in the desert tradition. They might need some time to ponder this with you. It is always wise to consult with a soul companion or community when testing the fruits of prayer.
  • Create a time of retreat for this holy time of year. A couple of hours is enough. Make space to sink into silence, journal, reflect on your experiences of the year past. Write about your dreams and deep desires for the year ahead. In the space of contemplation and stillness, notice if there is a word, image, or phrase which rises up.
  • Go for a contemplative walk where you aren’t trying to get anywhere. Your sole purpose is to be as present as possible to each footfall. Listen for how your inner life is calling you forward with each step. Be present to the gifts of creation around you (even if it is the city pigeons and trees planted down the sidewalk). Listen if they might have a word to offer to you.
  • Listen to your dreams in these coming days. As you go to sleep, lay a piece of paper and pen by your bed as a sign of your willingness to receive the wisdom that comes in dreams. Consider strong dream images as possible words calling to you. Pay attention to synchronicities through the day. Are there images or words which seem to repeat themselves? If so, take note.
  • Allow time for the word to ripen. This may be a slow process. If you hear a word calling, sit with it for a couple of days. Listen attentively to the stirrings of your heart in response. Eventually there will be a tugging inside of you, where you feel yourself drawn again and again to this word. Allow yourself to be in a space of unknowing with this and practice being present to your anticipation knowing that things of the soul unfold in their own time. This is a journey of transformation and the word may not make immediate sense to you, but trust that over time more of its meaning will be revealed.

When the word emerges, please share it with me and others in the comments section below. I am truly blessed by the sharings offered there – it is such a gift of hope in this time of holy darkness (and if you share by Friday, January 6th you are entered into a random drawing for a chance to win one of several prizes!)

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458 Responses

  1. Open my heart.
    That phrase keeps surfacing in my quiet time of meditation. At a contemplative service I regularly attend, we sing a chant with those words which seem to have worked into my soul. As mother, wife, colleague, friend, daughter I hear its resonance calling me. Open my heart…open my heart…

  2. My word for 2012 is MUSIC. . . .music brings me joy; music introduces me to new worlds; music takes me out of my head and into my spirit; music expresses that for which words are not adequate.

    The past two years have required much letting go and surrendering as I was laid off and entered the world of unemployment with my family that I supported. This Christmas I found myself connecting with the Little Drummer Boy and with people in Whoville from the show, The Grinch, as I contemplated how I would be able to buy gifts for my family. I realized that in the Drummer Boy, the gift that he gave was music and that was enough, and in the Grinch after everything had been taken from those in Whoville, they still were able to sing joyfully on Christmas day.

    I feel blessed knowing that music will accompany through this year and further on this journey that I have been on for the past two years.

  3. My word for this year is “attend.” I do not mean this in the sense of being physically present at an event, but to “attend with the ear of one’s heart” as St. Benedict invites us to do. It is so easy for me to go about my daily life without paying an ounce of attention to what is going on around me or within me. This year I want to change that. I want to be truly attentive to God, myself, and others and respond accordingly.

  4. LISTEN is my word. I talk too much for one thing, and for the second, our church’s theme for this year is “Listen, God is calling.” It’s from an African song that we sing frequently. When I heard that last Sunday it rang my soul like a bell. I’m adopting that as my personal theme for the year as well. And for the third thing, I spend too much time doing urgent things rather than important ones. My plan is to listen to my heart and soul and discover the things that are truly important to me.

  5. My phrase is “stand your ground,” which truly puzzles me, so I am looking forward to this phrase working on me this year so I can see where this is leading!

  6. My word is obedience. The biography, Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy by Eric Metaxas, has repeatedly moved me in his desire to know the will of God and do it. As I also note in Scripture, obedience to God’s will is about living fully in peace. I am reminded of a professor’s statement that “God’s will is our well being”.

  7. My word is “courage” – at Christmas Eve service, I asked the children what they thought Jesus would have us remember about his birth and life. Without hesitation, a young boy said, “to have courage!” I was surprised and delighted with his response and it has been percolating within me since. It has been a difficult year at church and personally – full of loss and sadness. The grief is lightening and I look forward to a new courage this year – courage to heal, to accept love, respect, praise, loss and grace – courage to accept my mistakes and my gifts; courage to love and enjoy my place in God’s creative kin-dom.

  8. My word for 2012 is pilgrimage- as 2011 ended I ended a ministry and as 2012 dawns I begin a new ministry of teaching and pastoral care at a new church in a different congregation. 2012 feels like a pilgrimage to me- following the light, not quite sure where I’m going, hopefully learning about trust and faith along the way.

  9. I offer the word “Nowhere”, which can be broken down into “Now-Here” a mantra that reminds me to be present to the present, especially when I sit to meditate. It focuses me in the gentlest of ways and allows me to sink into the mysterious and deep stillness of the Holy.