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Give Me a Word: The Promise of an Ancient Practice to Guide Your Year

Author: Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, REACE, OblSB
Publisher:
Broadleaf Books
Publication date:
September 16, 2025
ISBN-13:
979-8889831266

Description

Your word is waiting, hovering just beneath the surface. All you need is the quiet courage to listen and receive it.

Beginning in around the third century CE, a group of monastics known as the desert mothers and fathers retreated to the deserts of northern Egypt, Syria, and Palestine to pursue lives of silence and prayer. A key phrase, repeated often among the sayings of the desert mothers and fathers, is “Give me a word.” This tradition of asking for a word was a way of seeking something on which to ponder for many days, weeks, months–sometimes a whole lifetime.

Fast-forward many centuries to the present day, and we find the practice of seeking a word being reclaimed by the spiritually minded in new ways. For nearly two decades, Abbey of the Arts has posted an online invitation to its virtual community before Christmas, inviting people to listen for a word to guide them in the year ahead. Hundreds of participants look forward to the practice each year.

In Give Me a Word, spiritual director and artist Christine Valters Paintner offers thirty contemplative and creative practices inviting you to slow down and listen for a word to guide you through the year ahead. Instead of chasing after resolutions, Paintner encourages a more mindful approach–letting go of expectations and becoming open to wisdom from unexpected places.

Give Me a Word will gently lead you through the process of receiving your word, testing its resonance, and embracing its meaning. As you reflect on and live by this word, you’ll find it offering insight, clarity, and purpose throughout the year. Give Me a Word invites you to enter a season of deep listening, inner growth, and spiritual discovery. Slow down and listen for the word that is waiting for you, and prepare your heart to wrestle with your word in the season to come.

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Praise for the Book

Christine Valters Paintner’s "Give Me a Word" is a creative, heart-centered invitation to listen to and live your life differently. . . . Reading it was like being on a week’s retreat on discovering new inner peace, greater personal joy, and a way to let compassion be a circle of grace for us and those who need a healthier sense of our presence in their lives.
Robert J. Wicks
author of The Simple Care of a Hopeful Heart: Mentoring Yourself in Difficult Times, professor emeritus, Loyola University Maryland
“Christine Valters Paintner’s "Give Me A Word ". . . . offers, not esoteric, but very practical advice that encourages and may lead to unexpected awakenings, epiphanies, transformations. I cannot recommend this book highly enough to anyone who is searching for a new direction in their lives or a deepening of the life they are already leading.
Ed Sellner
author of Celtic Saints and Animal Stories: A Spiritual Kinship, professor emeritus of theology and spirituality, St. Catherine University
"Give Me a Word" is the best book on lectio divina I've encountered. Her process is unique and creative. Christine takes her readers on a pilgrimage over 30 days with a received word, delineating creative ways to savor and deepen and experience that year's received word. I love her progression. . . . I highly recommend this!"
Laura Swan, OSB
author of author of The Forgotten Desert Mothers: Sayings, Lives, and Stories of Early Christian Women
Christine Valters Paintner’s warm-hearted, beautiful Give Me a Word welcomes us into wise, gentle activities for embracing radical simplicity in our day-to-day lives, in community with others. . . . Highly recommend it to anyone wanting to live in and from the calm and compassionate intersection of time and eternity!
Carmen Acevedo Butcher, PhD
poet and award-winning translator of The Cloud of Unknowing and Practice of the Presence
"Give Me a Word" is a seed bed of insight, wisdom, practices and lived experience. This inviting text leads the reader to gently dwell in silence, receive the implanted Word and savor the embodied life that desert wisdom offers. . . . While good company for the solitary reader, it is also a lovely guide for group formation.
Mary C. Earle
author of The Desert Mothers: Spiritual Practices from the Women of the Wilderness
In my studies with Christine, I've learned a great deal about the one word practice and I use her valuable insights in engaging with the practice both at the turn of a new year and at various junctures throughout. . . . Christine possesses a unique gift for bringing ancient, Christian contemplative wisdom into the present for those of us navigating the realities of modern life.
Dr. Jamie Marich
author of You Lied to Me About God: A Memoir; Dissociation Made Simple, and founder of The Institute for Creative Mindfulness
Christine has done us all a huge service by assembling the best of the best of life-giving spiritual practices that serve to nourish our heart’s deep hunger for wisdom. Give Me a Word is a vast treasure trove of both ancient and contemporary spiritual resources that are simultaneously insightful, creative, and above all, highly practical!
Wil Hernandez, PhD, Obl. OSB
Executive Director of CenterQuest, author of Accidental Monk: A Chronicle of Struggle, Faith, and Surrender, and a trilogy of books on Henri Nouwen
In "Give Me A Word", Paintner not only guides the reader to choosing their own word of life but also invites them into dancing with that word throughout the year. With ancient practices and creative counsel, this book is a constant balm for every ache, joy, and longing along the way.
Cassidy Hall
author of Queering Contemplation, cohost of the Encountering Silence podcast and creator of the Contemplating Now and Queering Contemplation podcasts
Based on an ancient practice of asking for and receiving a guiding word, this beautifully written spiritual classic overflows with transformative and heart-centered meditations, spiritual practices, and reflections from people who journeyed through this divine adventure. An excellent book for spiritual groups of all kinds. Give me a Word is a gift to the entire spiritual community.
Lerita Coleman Brown, PhD
Spiritual Companion, speaker, and author of What Makes You Come Alive: A Spiritual Walk with Howard Thurman
Every chapter in Christine Valters Paintner’s "Give Me A Word" (and her guided meditations included throughout the book) are grace-filled invitations that not only remind us, but even equip us, to bring our awareness from our mind to our heart, and to live from “this place of receptivity and intuition.”. . . I will always hold "Give Me a Word" close to my heart in thanks and gratitude for its soul-filling wisdom and practical instruction on how to wake up to the Mystery within and all around us, beckoning us to live the life we are meant to live. You will not want to miss reading this treasure of a book!
Caroline Oakes
author of Practice the Pause: Jesus’ Contemplative Practice, New Brain Science, and What It Means to Be Fully Human