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Featured Book for November 2026

Ancestors: Those Who Bless Us, Curse Us, and Hold Us

by William H. Lamar IV

“Interweaving his personal story with commentary on the Bible, music, and contemporary events, Lamar brings our attention to the ancestors who journey with us.” —Sojourners

We must speak the word ancestor. We must call their names. We must see them at work. 

The hand of ancestors in our affairs is undeniable. They exist all around us, motivating individuals and cultures. And yet, the United States is a nation that does not often use the word ancestor. But ancestors are as active here as they are in cultures that center ancestral presence–maybe more so. By failing to name the ancestors who bless us–as well as the ones that dehumanize us–we harm ourselves, our communities, our country.

As the pastor of one of the oldest Black churches in Washington, DC, William H. Lamar IV has a deep connection to his own ancestors and the ancestral legacy of his church in a city built of ancestral political voices and their ideologies. Drawing on this experience, he offers readers a new perspective on the role that our ancestors play in shaping our lives and communities, for without acknowledging their importance, we cannot move forward morally, ethically, spiritually, or politically.

Lamar examines family ancestors, political leaders, and voices of Scripture, and draws from African and African American historical ancestors to show how they shape our identities and moral compasses. By choosing our ancestors, we choose the stories we tell about ourselves and choose the kind of humans we want to be. This is more than a feel-good notion; Lamar writes, “This is a matter of life. This is a matter of death.”

Challenging the dominant, white-led theology that cloaks its own ancestor veneration, while seeking to keep others from the liberation that could come from their own, Lamar deconstructs the religious myths that restrict wise voices of life-giving influence. For when we integrate the voices we call on for ethics, strength, moral courage, justice, and community, we transform our personal and national narratives.

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Community Questions from Claudia Love Mair.

Part I

  1. Prior to reading the book, what did the word " ancestor" mean to you?
  2. The subtitle for Ancestors mentions ancestors who bless, curse, and hold us. What comes up for you as you examine these three possibilities?
  3. Have you ever encountered a belief that honoring ancestors conflicts with Christianity?

Part II

  1. Bill shares many personal stories in the book. What story stayed with you most?
  2. On page p.viii Bill mentions the ancestor space. What do you think that is?
  3. Bill writes, "All that we do is either expanded or contracted by those who thought and lived before us. How we think about theology, economics, and politics is circumscribed or widened by ancestors." p. 39. What ancestors come to mind when you read this quote?

Part III

  1. Chapter 4, page 65, is about shadow ancestors. What does honoring a more challenging ancestor mean to you? How can you acknowledge what they gave you as well as the harm they caused?
  2. Name an ancestor outside of your family whose life has brought harm to you or your community? Who are they, and in what way did they cause harm?
  3. Bill asks us to consider ancestors whose influence extends beyond our families. As part of a community of dancing monks, who are some spiritual, and/or creative ancestors that have influenced you?

Part IV

  1. In Ancestors, Bill draws upon Bible passages, music, memories of his family and community, and current events. Which of these aspects of the book moved you most powerfully?
  2. What kind of practices, such as telling stories, preparing family recipes, visiting your beloved dead's gravesite, making an altar, or creating art, help you feel more connected to your ancestors?
  3. What kind of ancestor do you want to be? What, such as wisdom, courage, or creativity, do want to leave behind once you are gone?